Thriving in Singleness: Deepening Your Relationship with God

It's a new month, and I would like to welcome you into November!


I never imagined going three weeks without updating this blog page when I started writing. But life happened. Unexpected challenges arose, and I found myself in a place where I needed the courage to get back on track. Though I didn’t intentionally take a break, I realized I could’ve done better if I’d had posts ready and scheduled. This would have kept me consistent, without leaving things to chance.


That background experience actually inspired today’s post: “How to Deepen Your Relationship with God,” continuing our series on thriving in your single season.


Walking with God requires a high level of intentionality. You can’t leave your relationship with Him up to chance because, without effort, distance can grow between you and God. There was a time when I told a friend I felt spiritually dry. That dryness was a direct result of my inconsistency in spending time with God. As Christians, it’s essential to understand that we can’t thrive without a connection to our source. It’s like a fish trying to live outside of water—its survival is short-lived. Without consistent connection, we start to lose the spiritual vitality we need to grow.




In John 15:4-5, Jesus explains that He is the vine, the source of life, and we are the branches. A branch detached from the vine withers and dies because it can’t sustain itself. Similarly, we need to stay rooted in Jesus to thrive. Only by remaining in Him do we gain the spiritual nourishment and strength we need to bear fruit. Let’s look at these verses in the MSG version: “Live in me. Make your home in me just as I do in you. In the same way that a branch can’t bear grapes by itself but only by being joined to the vine, you can’t bear fruit unless you are joined with me. I am the Vine; you are the branches. When you’re joined with me and I with you, the relation intimate and organic, the harvest is sure to be abundant. Separated, you can’t produce a thing.”

The only way to bear fruit is by staying connected to the source. The only way to live a thriving life as a single is by staying rooted in your Maker. The version emphasizes that when you are joined with Jesus in an intimate and organic relationship, the harvest is not only sure but sure to be abundant. The way we pick up our phones to chat with our friends or make time to visit them, Jesus wants such a relationship with us. He wants to keep us close. His desire is that we bear so much fruit, even in abundance.


Verse 4 talks about us living in Him, making our home in Him. Right now, I am trying to put those words into pictures. When we talk about our home, it’s our dwelling place. It’s a place where we reside, where we live, and everything needed for our living is provided in the house. When you think of your home, many things come to mind—your living room, your bedrooms, your kitchen where you make food to eat, and many other things necessary for living. This is how Christ is calling us to find all that we need in Him. It shows us that He is sufficient and wants to be accountable for our living, for everything we need or even think we would ever need. The only way to thrive and not strive is by staying connected to the source.


Also, in Psalm 42:1-2, David compares his longing for God to a thirsty deer seeking water. Just as water is essential for a deer’s survival, so is God’s presence for our spiritual well-being. When we feel dry or distant, it’s a signal to draw closer to Him.


After establishing the importance of staying connected to the source, I would like us to examine practical ways we can deepen our relationship with God:

 

1. Consistent Prayer Time

Prayer is our direct line to God, a time to share our worries, joys, and desires, but also to listen. Setting aside even 10 minutes each morning for prayer is a way to center yourself and invite God into your day. The keyword is consistency. A fish that stays in the water today and jumps out tomorrow, and continues this cycle, will either experience death or improper growth.




2. Regular Bible Study

Trust the Holy Spirit to help you study the Scriptures. Scripture is God’s Word to us, offering wisdom, guidance, and encouragement. Try reading a chapter a day, focusing on a book, or using a Bible study guide. Meditate on what God is saying and consider how it applies to your life.


3. Worship and Praise

Worship is more than singing; it’s an attitude of acknowledging God’s greatness. Worship Him throughout the day, whether through music, prayer or simply reflecting on His goodness. This practice helps shift your focus to God and fosters a spirit of gratitude instead of complaints.


4. Surround Yourself with a Godly Community

Being with other believers provides support and encouragement and keeps us accountable in our walk with God. Whether through a church, Bible study group, or online community, stay connected with people who encourage you spiritually.


5. Practice Gratitude and Reflect on God’s Goodness

Reflecting on what God has done in your life strengthens faith and deepens trust. Consider starting a gratitude journal or simply pausing to thank God each day. Gratitude shifts our focus from what we lack to what God has abundantly provided.


6. Fast with Purpose

Fasting helps us refocus spiritually, removing distractions so we can hear from God more clearly. It doesn’t always have to involve food; you could fast from social media or anything that tends to distract you from God. Use that time to seek God’s guidance and grow closer to Him.


 7. Spend Time in Silence and Solitude

In our busy lives, taking time to be still before God can be transformative. Silence allows us to hear God more clearly, and solitude gives us a space to deepen our relationship without distractions.


Lastly, to thrive as a purposeful single, stay deeply connected to God. Find your strength, purpose, and joy in Him, and watch the fruit He produces in your life. Make your relationship with Him intentional and consistent—it’s the foundation for everything else.


Take the time to answer this question in your journal: How do you plan to deepen your connection with God this week?


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